Person is seeking advice on whether or not they are being too hard on their wife for not allowing her to go to a restaurant with a friend
My wife and I have been together for 15 years and married for 12. I'm 32 years of age and she's 30.
Just about 7 years ago my wife cheated on me right after a night out at a restaurant with my sister. For some time, the two of them were at that place every other night while I was either working or at home or attending to our children.
I refused the initial plans to go in for separation but we decided to work things out and through serious counseling and finding God, our marriage has never been stronger.
I love her so much and I know that she does the same to me but that's not an issue. From that past experience at the restaurant, I told her one of the uncompromising conditions of our working things out though was that she was not to go to any restaurant ever again.
Even though I believe in my heart of hearts she wouldn't cheat on me again it's not something I'm willing to let go of.
Recently my wife started a new job and reconnected with an old friend from high school. Her friend is a beautiful single lady who likes to go out and chill. She recently asked my wife if she would like to go out to the restaurant and grab some food.
My wife asked me if I would be all right with this. I told point blank that I totally disagree. She defended that this would be something that she plans to do with her friend after they have closed from work and she was going to be home late in the evening.
While I do trust my instinct that she is repented and wouldn't do anything that will break our marriage, I am surprised she has forgotten what happened between us some years ago that nearly cost us our marriage.
I explained to her I am totally unhappy with it. She said also explained that she has worked so hard to build back everything that she destroyed some time ago, and will never attempt to cheat again, and she wants to be a good coworker with her old friend.
She promised heaven on earth not to cheat at the restaurant but I still refused and told her no. I told her my feelings can't accept the thoughts that come from hanging out at the restaurant again.
I told her it was a hard line no and that if she went against my wish there would be no coming back from it and we would absolutely get divorced. So I'm asking am I being too hard on her?
And this is something I will never compromise on.
