Overcoming failure is one of the key things that reveal the human side of us. Unlike animals that fear only present dangers, human beings have the tendency to anticipate fears- Look forward to things that are likely to happen in the near future.
Fear of failure, some believe, is important…. it guides our behavior from acting bad. But what I have realized, is most of these, fear, depression and anxiety are unnecessary, and keep us down from achieving anything.
Most of these fears include: not being good, failure, being broke, success, rejection and relationships.
I believe the first one — not being good enough — is the main cause of all the others. We often fear because we are not good enough compared to others.
What fear are you suffering from? What fear wakes you up in the middle of the night with your heart pounding? That you are not good enough?
But here is the clue: having the fear is normal. Allowing it to prevent you from fulfilling your dreams is a tragedy.
How to overcome fear of failure
There is no one stop solution to overcoming your fears, but here is what I have studied from others.
1. First, admit your fear.
This step is very crucial. If you have this done today, you have done something huge. Many of us keep these fears, but these fears hang at the back of our mind, unidentified, as we try to ignore them and act they are not there. And they affect us, every day, all our lives. So acknowledge the fear..
2. Have it written on paper.
What do you fear the most? Not only will having the fear written down help you to admit that you suffer from it. It removes the power the fear has over you from within to outside of you, where you have power over the fear. Take control over it by writing it down. It is now outside you. Post it on the back of your door as a reminder of your enemy.
3. Sense the fear.
You have come a long way, you have admitted it, but you are still unsure and afraid of it. You are unwilling to have this fear overtake you. Well, this is over. Remember that you are not the only one, that we all have these fears.
4. Ask yourself: what is too bad that might occur?
Often it’s not as bad as we think. Do you fear failing in a new career? What would happen if you did?
5. Simply have it done.
To overcome the fear, you have to simply have it done. You fear to speak in public, but by having it done, the feeling is great. “I used to dread most things. I recently decided to overlook my fears and just and just go for them! Plenty chances have come as a result.”
6. Brace yourself for a fight.
When you are going to face an enemy, in order to win the battle you have to get yourself well prepared through training and careful planning. If you want to be an actress but you fear failure, the key is rehearsing consistently, and then come up with a way to achieve that. Then go out and make your dream a reality!
7. Live one day at a time.
Fear of failure comes more often from fears of the time to come. Rather, do away with all thoughts of the future. Which include previous faults and losses? Begin to concentrate on right now. Do a thing in this moment to beat your fears, and forget about the consequences.
8.Enjoy every success!
Every little thing you do correctly, have a celebration. This good feeling of success can push you forward to do the more. Build upon every step.